A lot of negative articles in the papers about the Church of England and organized religion at the moment, even their pet papers are speaking out

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/paedophile-vicar-still-wears-dog-4971960

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2637961/Convicted-paedophile-allowed-interrogate-victims-Jehovahs-Witness-meeting-wanted-barred-church.html#ixzz3Mw9uYo00

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2904696/Victims-Church-care-home-Dr-Mengele-Teresa-children-damage-drug-experiments-inflicted-girls-Church-England-care-homes-20-years-ago-never-undone.html

link to an excellent article by Samantha Field about Christians and sexual abuse

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/current/what-christians-get-wrong-about-sexual-abuse

The Safeguarding that the Church of England have promoted

I had a thought as I walked home from prayer meeting this evening.

The church of England launched a leaderless directionless series of cover-ups that they claimed were related to my case, and yet obviously were not as they omitted my side of things.
They told the world 'Thus shall be done to someone who reports abuse in the church' as they continued six years of destroyal.

But guess what? This blog and Bob's blogs about the matter, have ensured that thousands of people know the church of England is unsafe and unstable for vulnerable people!

So, I am safeguarding unwitting people against a dangerous and deceitful church, and my blog is running at over 36.000 views and is increasing.
Although the blog and the diocese are taking up all day every day without a break and I am hardly able to do anything else, even unable to enjoy the beach and the summer.

I would like to do a quick article regarding what to do if you are abused or have been abused in a Church:

• Do Not go to the Church authorities first, you are likely to be treated with contempt and disbelief, and even if they claim to investigate, you may well find, as I did, that years later, nothing is done.
• Go to the police, and at least get the case on record. Before you go to the church, this will force the church to act, because they do not want to.
• Leave the church where you were abused if you are still there, it sounds cold but it is for your own safety and welfare, I left the dreadful church where I was sexually abused long before I reported it.
• If you need survivor support, do not go to the UK's MACSAS charity, they are not geared to survivors and are more of a political movement, SNAP in the USA are caring but incompetent with communication, the best specific support is The Hope Of Survivors, which is an international charity. If you were abused as a child, NAPAC are an excellent source of support, all these charities are in my survivors links, apart from MACSAS.
• Do not let the church fob you off if and when you go to them with your complaint, fight them and go up the food chain, one and all couldn't care less about survivors and have no understanding of abuse and vulnerablility, but they still have a duty of care to you.
• Don't give up, if you have been sexually or physically abused, this is a crime, it is hard to fight a cold corporation like the church, but they are liable if you have suffered a crime at their hands.
• If you have been spiritually abused, this is still a case you can take to the church. And they are obliged to keep a record, this may help in the future if anyone else makes a complaint. Survivors of Spiritual abuse http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/spiritual-abuse-survivor-blogs-network/

comments, corrections and additional thoughts are welcome.

Survivors

I think it is time I launched another blog with these articles on, a survivor's  blog,
all along I have been too busy defending myself against a condemning church to be an abuse survivor,

as I said about Winchester, the Diocese made me out to be mad and bad but omitted that I am autistic and abused,

and, as you know, so did Jersey,

and this is how abuse survivors are treated.

Not just me,

so I want to do a blog for all of us.

Especially Chichester and Haute de la Garrenne Survivors, who have been through worse than I have, and for longer.

Another untruth from the Church

church leaders who lie, and know they are lying, they invalidate the church,
Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2661027/Second-church-official-admits-didnt-know-touching-child-intimately-crime-just-day-fellow-brother-said-wasnt-aware-paedophilia-illegal.html

Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin, Bishop Dakin...etc.

Spiritual Abuse Survivors Network

As regular readers may be aware, I have been seeking help and support for recovery from spiritual abuse in the Church and in my upbringing.

There is very little practical or therapeutic help available in the UK that focuses on Spiritual abuse, but in my internet search, I came across The Spiritual Abuse Survivors Network, which is pretty awesome, so I have put a link in my 'survivors links' in the blog sidebar.

The Network supports and encourages bloggers who write about their experience of spiritual abuse, and to me, this is amazing! Other people blogging about the same things as me! :)

Here is a blog list: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/spiritual-abuse-survivor-blogs-network/

The Network is another example of giving a voice to the voiceless and thus helping people to heal by being able to speak out and share their experience, their trauma, to enable them to start healing and sharing the load.

This is an introduction to the Spiritual Abuse Survivors Network http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2012/06/introducing-the-spiritual-abuse-survivor-blogs-network/

Spiritual abuse goes deep, if you grow up with it as I have, it affect how you relate to the world in adulthood, and as an adult, it can break you, as the Church of England's abuse of me has.

I found this post interesting because of the link between my parents' strict religion and their teaching us at home and being set against schools and other 'authorities' http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2013/03/homeschoolers-anonymous/

And this blog is pretty famous http://defeatingthedragons.wordpress.com/

Found this in a separate search
http://leavingfundamentalism.wordpress.com/spiritual-abuse-survivors/

A decade

Yes I am partially back on my feet.

It took me a decade to really realise that God was not in the Church of England and that they were not in God.

A decade, of abuse and abuses, a decade of seeing wrong things and being indignant but not realising that the whole system is bad.

A decade that has damaged me to extremes.

I pray for any other vulnerable people who are slow at realising the harm they are suffering, and who end up damaged. I pray that they see the light.

I pray for any victim of a church-state setup, especially those in Ireland who were enslaved and abused in mainly Catholic schemes such as the Magdalene laundries and the industrial schools and Catholic-run orphanages and schools, especially as seeking justice and redress has been so prevented by the power that the church held.

The spiritual damage of people using God's Name while abusing their power is horrendous.

Together we heal -7 ways churches can help survivors.

Shocking example of the girl and the doctor, but very much the 'Church' way:
http://together-we-heal.org/2014/06/02/7-ways-churches-should-begin-to-welcome-survivors-of-abuse/

Catholic church abuse

http://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/opinion/editorial/2014/03/15/george-pell%E2%80%99s-last-offering-abuse-the-catholic-church/1394802000#.UyWaZ869JLN