I am just going to copy what I absently scribbled on my notepad this morning.
People in Government or the Church of England who investigate abuse are usually well off, comfortable, stable and always have been, as were there parents and as are their children.
They cannot and usually don't try to, see things from the perspective of a poor, vulnerable dependent child or adult. They have not lived through it and so cannot understand it.
Imagine Lady Butler-Sloss for example. She has had a good life, she likes the Church of England, she acts for them, she told a victim that she 'didn't want to give the press a Bishop' ie, the Bishop may have abused, but his status was more important than the Victim's story being heard.
Any effective inquiry really needs at least one survivor who is healed to the point where their memories or flashbacks wont affect them partaking in investigations. Any inquiry needs someone who has been through it and understands what survivors are going through.
And, of course, for an inquiry to be independent, it needs outside members of inquiry. On a personal Note, the Korris report claims to be independent when Korris was someone who carried out Church contracts and included Lady Butler-Sloss's advice, as well as the Church of England's head of Safeguarding, Elizabeth Hall, in her inquiry, hardly independent, Lady 'Dont-give-the-press-aBishop and Jane Fisher's friend and colleague Elizabeth Hall who has refused a formal complaint against Jane Fisher, also the Korris report was comiled from selected notes and emails by Jane Fisher, who is known to write emails for 'show' and 'evidence'.
So how was the Korris report independent? It wasn't.
John Gladwin, a retired Church of England Bishop, is not independent, nor is Heather Steel, Philip Bailhahce's colleague, Lady Butler-Sloss's colleague.
So far all church report omit my views, even though the Diocese were sent my amendments to the Korris report.
And as for government Investigations, they elected Lady Butler-Sloss, who didn't want to give the press a Bishop, and who's brother was involved in preventing full and proper inquiries into CSA.
The only proper, thorough and genuine inquiries are going to be independent and include survivors. Internal investigations, even those that claim wrongly to be independent, risk protecting wrongdoers, as the church reports into my case do.
THIS IS FROM SIMON DANCZUK'S RECENT TELEGRAPH ARTICLE, IT ILLUSTRATES JUST HOW LITTLE UNDERSTANDING AUTHORITIES HAVE OF ABUSE SURVIVORS AND THE PROBLEMS THEY HAVE:
Think of the 1,400 children abused in Rotherham. They were beaten, had guns pointed at their heads, were routinely gang raped, had petrol poured over them and were threatened with being set alight. What do you think happens to these kids?
They don’t tend to end up in nice jobs, washing their cars in the suburban sunshine on a Sunday morning. They grow up angry, resentful and lost to society. The Prime Minister talks about sending in welfare squads to tackle “problem families”, but what about the lost generation that’s being created now by allowing children to be abused on an industrial level?
I’ve sat before these people and listened to their stories. I remember every one. Some have managed to turn their lives around, and these stories are inspirational. But, for most, the burden of abuse is too heavy to bear. Kids who walk through the fire of extreme abuse make very different choices to the rest of us. They end up joining the Foreign Legion, committing violent crimes, taking drugs or sleeping on the streets. When I looked at the criminal record of one victim and asked why he couldn’t stay on the straight and narrow, he told me it was safer in prison.
For most, they struggle to make relationships and the human cost is massive. “I don’t have friends, I prefer to be on my own because I don’t trust people,” one sexually abused man told me. He’d made a living over the past 20 years working with the travelling community on the margins of society. These were the only people who didn’t judge him, he said.
But talking to bosses in children’s services and the multitude of highly paid professionals running our protective agencies, you’ll never get any real understanding of the depth or complexity of the people they’re dealing with. It’s become a cold science where the hard work of gaining trust, taking a human approach and supporting people has been replaced with a detached, long-lens view. And it’s not just management that has this view. At one point last year, I made a complaint on behalf of one of the Rochdale grooming victims as a social worker kept appearing outside her house, peering through the window. Is that the “help” a survivor of sexual abuse needs?